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According To Wes
Don't Make Me Give You Back To The Hood
Why you gotta fight with me at Cheesecake?
You know I love to go there
This has been a toxic femininity type of week, Wes and DeLaw are so thankful for marriage
I think I said well, look, fan, I'm gonna put to you like this you already, you already told me the math. You said since you've been working in these three years, you have given her, not paid for, not not done all this other shit. You have given her 40 G's, ok, no, he needs to leave. Hello everybody, Welcome to the Quarters West podcast. We have your host, Wes.
Speaker 2:So Coke and Roam Sunday come on.
Speaker 1:Coke and Roam Sunday and you have me, the co-host the law, with a doctor and trainer. Joe's white tea will sparkling. White tea and pomegranate.
Speaker 2:Yo, you said you were going to be sober.
Speaker 1:I guess I was going to be sober, and then the risk is one that all went out the window. Yeah, so let me not get this canceled with the commander's one.
Speaker 2:Your wife, my football.
Speaker 1:My wife Kind of, but not really she. She likes the Ravens and she'll watch them. Just to say she watches, but really she's like any other woman. She's like really intensive about her team and so they're losing and it's like that's it. It's she really used to. I used to love what cheer for the rest of what they could win shit. So I moved to the Ravens.
Speaker 1:I'm like what are you from Williamsburg? How the fuck you was up. But that fuck that team up and ready to move to Baltimore. I mean it's a much better. They can't win those simple boat, old style soul.
Speaker 2:I get what's the one. Maybe next two, three years.
Speaker 1:I'll tell you the skins in the next two, three years. Honestly, they knocked all the Falcons that they, even though they were favorites and lose by like two and a half points, which I was like, really two and a half. Well, fuck you out of this, but I don't want to know, it was not she.
Speaker 2:But now, man, I I got washed football, you know, I just, I just don't. I haven't been. I'm trying to figure out what the fuck I was going with the rest of my day. I was in between, I was not playing 2K, so what the fuck was I doing? I mean, it was the end of the day. I was playing fucking a street fighter and shit Street fighter, but no, you know who else. Football Catch it when I catch it. I catch it when I catch it. League of Legends I'm like I'm gonna catch the key big games and shit like that, but I have not seen a single full game at all. What is it like week three for?
Speaker 1:Shit Me, I would watch. I think we watched the, watched it in I pretty famous game. And then I was like I'm about to go out and watch. Yeah, I, I'm watching this game. But yeah, she was getting ready to Go to this thing with the Zedas. Didn't really tell me what, what was going on, but she was just like, yeah, I'm going to. I just got to go to something with the Zedas and I'll see when I get back.
Speaker 2:I was like OK, it means you couldn't tell you as a secret.
Speaker 1:You couldn't tell me what she was doing.
Speaker 2:She don't know what she was doing, or as a secret. Well you know, see, I was this way.
Speaker 1:I put this way I know what she was doing, but because I know what she was doing, I can't say what was going on, even though she didn't tell me what was going on.
Speaker 2:OK. So when you say stuff like that, are you saying it because they might kill you, or are you saying that because you don't want to embarrass your wife?
Speaker 1:Well, I'm saying it's mostly because if they're viewers, if they're good listeners to the podcast, ok, never mind, I'm Greek life. I'm Greek life, so I know that you're not. You know, even though my mom won't tell me nothing, I know what's going on. So I just said, ok, cool, you ain't got something that's going on, just let me know you. Good, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:OK, I don't know what you're saying now. So, all right, no, no, no, no, no. I know what you're saying. Ok, on a low level. I know what you're saying, Can't really say it. Ok, I can't really say it.
Speaker 1:I got you, but it's, I know what was going on. Well, I know what's going on. I can't definitely say that's what's going on, but with her saying, you know, I'm going to meet up with the Zetas and I'm like, ok, what's I doing? And she said, I mean, don't worry about it, I know what's going on, I know what's going on.
Speaker 1:You know, if I was in Greek life, or if I wasn't in, if I hadn't been in that realm, I'd be like what's your mean, what you about? Well, something that you did, I'd have been off the deep and no my. But because I understand, I'm just like, oh all right, cool, just you know, just let me know you good when you're done. You know like I am good, I'm safe, right, I'm on my way home. You know saying, because I don't need to know what you know, I don't need to know if you know what to interview, I would need to know if you're doing the man. I would need to know if you out there doing some dumb sorority shit, yes, as long as you're good, and you say I'm good, you know saying it's as well, those things.
Speaker 2:So I'll say, I'll say, I'll say, I'll say yeah there.
Speaker 1:But we did have really good conversation. So I saw my Facebook. Yeah, I noticed completely on topic, because I have no clue what topic is, on my sense, off topic, all right. So I was looking at my Facebook feed about this chick who I don't know. If you saw it, the 48.
Speaker 2:Horsters.
Speaker 1:No, the one who didn't get the car because he took a cheesecake.
Speaker 2:Even worse. Let's talk about these toxic women today. Man, even worse. I briefly heard about that one. I'm like yo, I want to get in there. Yeah, what the fuck do you think?
Speaker 1:you're going. I watched the video right. So what? I'm watching the video because I'm like all right, you know she was. Because the thing was that she refused to get out of the car because she went to a chain restaurant on the first day and so when I'm assuming it was a black dude she was with with because of what is not black, so all mad guys like, oh, I see where this was, I see where this was. So she's like she gets on TikTok like you know guys were at that cheesecake factory and he gets out of the camera. Like you know. Like you know, like you're not getting out the car, you'll be able to do it. What's up. She's like this is a cheesecake factory, like, but pretty much he's going through, like you know. You know all your first day when you're trying to court someone, because you know I get courted, I don't. You know I don't be I get courted. You know you was protecting Okay.
Speaker 2:I'm already annoyed I was.
Speaker 1:I was annoyed when she said that to her. I wanted, I wanted to like throw my phone, but I knew I needed it. She was like you know, and he she's like he was protecting me Do this to carry me, treat me like a queen. I know, the best way I can protect you is that cheesecake.
Speaker 2:How you, how you know, no like I know that whole building inside. No like right. How you know I don't own that franchise of that building.
Speaker 1:but yeah, that's neat to add up there.
Speaker 2:You hear that, so he pretty much was like well, I, you know, I get what you're saying, but I have the same expectation to be appreciated.
Speaker 1:And he said you know he showed her where you want to take her. I don't even do all that.
Speaker 2:You, I'm taking your ass home.
Speaker 1:Well, he did. He took her home. All right, he's talking to her.
Speaker 2:Just go home, you know, but this I think he was probably diplomatic. I like you know, you, you, you talk about like.
Speaker 1:I brought you the cheesecake and you pissed off about it, but the original restaurant was supposed to go to. A reservation is at five. I told you to be ready at four so we can get to our reservation at five. You didn't come to the restaurant. You didn't invite me up, you didn't. You did nothing. Don't this sound like? Didn't I make? Didn't?
Speaker 2:I say some shit like that before, didn't? I say that's the wrong way. I'm like yo, where's it supposed to be at this place? I said no. I said be ready at this time was not ready. At that point you fucked up. Whatever we was doing, it's going to be what it's going to be Exactly, and that's what I say.
Speaker 1:I was like like I said there's no way that you, you matter what you're doing. I said there's no way that you, you matter because you want the cheesecake. I show you what it's like. I'm saying I'm going to take you to fucking root, chris, or legendary steak or some shit Like I'm not thinking so fancy, you know, out of chain or root person Chains can be fancy.
Speaker 2:To root person it's fancy and it's a change. I get it. No pain, exactly, there's levels to a cheesecake is the beginning of the good level, of the good level of chains.
Speaker 1:That's what I said. I was like this. So I look at this video and I said I got called my wife and find out what is her thoughts on it. So I called her. I'm like, hey, babe, I just looked at this video and this shake pretty much was complaining that she was getting taken to cheesecake on the first date and she thought she should have gotten like something higher standard or whatever. And I was like, but that bitch is dumb. I was like, so explain to me this, because you know I want to make sure I got your whole thing so I can make sure I got.
Speaker 1:Was just dumb because, like I get, you want to have standards, but you're going to if you don't find interest in the person and they take you out, you're going to complain about where to take. You might as well take the free meal and shut the fuck up and not call them again. And I was like, huh, okay, I could see that was you. This was just pretty much like I. You know that the person just doesn't want to take you on the first date because if you ain't given up the cheats on the first night, if you ain't let them up and see a place the first night if you're not doing things that he expects you to do on the first date. Would you want him to go on the first date? How are you not to?
Speaker 2:go on the first, all out. It's not even that. What happens to? Like yo, I am a fiscal, fiscally responsible. My, that should be number one, the number one thing you want to see your man. Well, that's, that's what. That's. What I thought like is, like you know, unimmediately I was like, yeah, I'm not doing For her. It wasn't about being fiscally responsible, it was about like I feel like I'm worth a $200 night dinner and that's what it should be, and it's just kind of like when, when did that start happening? Like, the amount of money means your work and I'm like yo, I spend 200 plus on shoes and I step in mud in them. Bitches, it don't mean anything right, and it's not even.
Speaker 1:It wasn't even that. So the thing she kept repeating was you know, I'm a beautiful woman and I'm looking like this, and you won't mean going to see. What was that?
Speaker 2:What does that?
Speaker 1:mean no clue, because she, as as cute as she was, she only showed on the neck up. So far we know she could have been a whale below and only matter.
Speaker 2:Wish was less. Just a song. She's not a whale. Your beauty has nothing to do About where you go, hey look, that was her thing.
Speaker 1:My wife was just like you know, at the end of the day I'm not she says she not faulted assistant girl for Having standards. But women need to get out their own way, because the same woman that are toxic, like this and like, oh, you got to take me here what I would have brought up, same ones that are lonely, they're the same ones who are, you know, saying they can't find a good man. But the good men come across but they don't meet their Expectations that they want versus what they can get, not name and that. But they're asking this guy to make a hundred thousand, but she makes 40.
Speaker 2:So how do you know it? Just, they just go too far. Like usually when it comes to stuff like that, I can understand where, how, the how the expectations come into play and where they come in the foot. So in this situation, if it's like yo, I'm not, uh, that's, I don't want to this, this and this, and it should be like, it's just weird, it's like a chain restaurant, that's a thing see, I didn't, I didn't, I didn't get with the issue of because you know you were late.
Speaker 2:Fucker, like the say after that like once, you can't respect my time it's a good cheesecake time.
Speaker 1:But you, you get mad because I didn't take you to an expensive restaurant on the first date and and I and I and what I liked, what he said was you said you didn't want me come out to your, to your part, you didn't invite me into your apartment because you don't know me like that, some other things. Because she said I don't know you like that. But he said you know, try to write thing about the original plan was taking to this place. I don't even know you like that. So, yes, this is the appropriate place to take it, because why do I want to spend all that money and not be Appreciated for what I do if I don't know you like that? So I should be taking you somewhere even lower the cheesecake. And I'm like, I'm like huh.
Speaker 1:I said, well, he turned that around very quickly. But so here was a question. I asked my wife, and this, of course, on my ag sheet okay, so the guy was not black, he was a foreigner, I think, more long-alising, your Indian. The woman was black, the woman was black, yes, so, and I brought this question to my wife, I'm gonna bring up to you Do you think she would have had the same response If it was a black guy who she pursued versus someone, another person from another culture pursuing earn, take her out.
Speaker 1:So a black guy that she pursued a black guy that she pursued or that she found to be attractive, that Now Prusa's, her she thought she could build with, versus this not so is it thing?
Speaker 2:Here's the thing I will learn and I might be going off tangent and I might be answering the question. Here's the thing I will learn about. You know, we are 36, what? Two years older than me, right? So about Dylan? Not Dylan. But just like talking to different people and their experiences and their stories and stuff like that, at this age that we're at, and if women are still single and dating and stuff like that, there is no, I'm pursuing this guy. It should come to them at this point. That's how they feel. So it's coming to them off the roof. Now, if it was a black guy and not the foreign guy, I'm gonna be honest with that type of attitude she not dating black, that's my wife said you like guys.
Speaker 2:That's that's all I is, so within her did. When that happened, she was like it's some black guy shit and it's like no.
Speaker 1:Because you know about a nigga. This is some land shit. Here's what I told my wife. I said you know, I think you know. At first, when the video first came up, I thought it was her talking to a you know it was gonna be a black guy. Well, I found out that it was a somebody from another culture that had a nice car. In my head she probably looked at oh it's like a guy, money, I'm going to get it, or this, yeah, or he can afford what she would but I don't know is getting?
Speaker 2:you can afford it, but it's just like yo, this is a date. Well, I just want to throw the brain out.
Speaker 1:Oh huh, he was going to throw the bread out. It was. It was a fact that he had to wait in this car for an hour for her and a reservoir Was when she finally came down. Exactly, she's fucked that up and I told my wife. I said I can guarantee you that if it was a black guy some of who she's like, okay, I can build with more some of them she post, he could change or whatever she's hate, faculty wouldn't have been an issue.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry, she's not dating black guy. She's dating any guy that she thinks is one of has brown. Yeah, so it's not necessarily like that. If it was a black guy, I I to be honest. I know this sounds fucked up. She's not giving that dude any grace.
Speaker 1:Unless, unless he looked like you got bread like this new bit.
Speaker 2:No, he didn't even get grease.
Speaker 1:Well, no, because see, I didn't you know are. He took her home. He told her. He said and then, and then, when he said he bought to take, he says you know what? Because you know I think the word he used was not obedient, but he used something he's like you know, I get that you don't want to do all this stuff because you just met me and I respect that. But it's a certain amount of respect that I expect. And if my reservations were for five o'clock, you want to ready F4?
Speaker 2:You got to communicate with me that you won't be a little late so that I can call the restaurant and say you know, because I mean all that is facts, because at the end of the day, when you're going on a date with someone and woman I don't understand why some women don't understand this this is not you, your come-up. There's another person in this situation. The person that's in this situation isn't a third class, you know, citizen in this country or whatever you don't. This is not your come-up. This isn't your. I get a free meal. He asked to do whatever I say. It's like I like you, on this date you want to be with a man is able to lead, protect me, all this other stuff you. You leading by saying like yo, be ready at 4, 30. This is what we going.
Speaker 1:And if I show up at 4 o'clock then it's shit. You got 15 minute. You got a 15 minute grace period for the time that I show up, that you can be late. Oh you, and like everything was I got, I did all this, I got dressed up to do this.
Speaker 2:You know people don't want to say that shot like you shouldn't be that ugly, that Right, we shouldn't be that ugly that you had to do all that shit just to get ready. I'm not being honest and I'm not saying that I am not. I haven't seen her. I'm not saying that she is ugly. You should not think that you're that ugly that you have to do that shit.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying she was ugly. I'm not saying I don't understand that you get what I mean. Like you know what's not gonna say that she was ugly, but I'm also not gonna say she was a bird, me dropping $200. She was a little bad, she ain't that. I was like, oh my god, I gotta have this.
Speaker 2:I'm not even doing that for I'm not doing that for a bad dream either. What I'm saying, men of simple, comb your hair smell good.
Speaker 1:And then, and then we said you know what, because you were late, because now you complain about this, I'm gonna take you home and pull it off the parkerspot, starts taking her home. She like what? Oh wait, wait, wait. Well, I mean like, I mean I'm just saying like, no, you said enough, you're right, I was like you already. But as soon as a nigger says, guess what? I'm gonna take you as home.
Speaker 2:That's a lot to the streets.
Speaker 1:Wrap like I'll. At that point you, if a guy is on a date with you and you refuse to get out the car, and they say and you and that you're sitting there debating with them about you know why don't you go to the car, like this is what happened you. You were late and like, well, well, can't you call them in and see if you can still get your reservation? No, bitch, I can not, a world worst, right. So then he was like it was like Now, well, you have my kid, now she's. I'm like you know, okay, cool, well, says you don't get out, I'm gonna go and take your first.
Speaker 1:First she suggested him to take her, take her, take him all, take her own. Then when he said, okay, well, this is what I was more taking with, seems like well, can you find another place of that caliber? And he was like for what you've already? You pretty much. He said in the very nice way you've already degraded me, or social media, or social media, the great of me. Also. Some you made me sound like I was a cheap motherfucker, even though you would leave all this other shit. I don't take your ass home if I somebody who appreciates and comes down all time. And then as soon as he was like I'm gonna say she likes, you really want to take me home, you know, and this week this. Then they could see she was really in our pillow's life. Damn like I Mean. Oh, I said, was that cheesecake? And she was in. This is like, well, I mean we didn't compromise. He's like I'm gonna compromise it, taking you home.
Speaker 2:Man in this situation. Why am I cooperizing with where I'm taking you and you not paying?
Speaker 1:Exactly, and that's my wife she's. Why did she go free meal? Sometimes people want to pick your brain. They want to see if you work Worth big time Like why take your wife?
Speaker 2:even. It's not even. It's not even that this could be responsible number one, number two this is like an audition, like we're like, like why, if you say it like we get in and know each other and stuff like that, that does not. That should not be a price like oh, has to be two hundred dollars for you to get to know me right. I can give you the two hundred dollars, and then what Like, let's skip the dinner then.
Speaker 2:Hey you that type of woman, you that type of woman, just say that, stop, stop, stop. They try to sugarcoat all the like oh, this wouldn't need to be. Just say, you want, after, to do with the most money. And you I might be a little gold diggerish just say that, because that's who does what you put enough.
Speaker 1:Hey look, I even. I even took it a step farther. I was me, I was just being. I would be an ass over. I talked about one. Well, I said she probably the same one. She won't go to expensive place, she get her meal, he get, he get his meal. She'd be the one start texting or a phone to the view who she bought a fuck that night and be like you know, I really want this other thing. You mind getting mad, you know, say whatever, whatever to breathe to him, and then it's a little pull up. Well, thank you for having a good night, I'll see you next time. Just text me why the niggas are sitting in the house waiting for us. Who, like I think, nah, that was just me, that was just me. I, you know that. That was my. My extra petty ass is. I know that's happening to me.
Speaker 2:No, that's, that's Lord, that's it. Stories almost as worse, almost as bad as the.
Speaker 1:China. Mr Muffler was at the oyster shit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but you heard, you heard about that too. I vaguely did like oh, you are vaguely heard about yours, but I definitely heard about this one. He eats old shoulder. We're going out the drink to get drinks. She said you might if I get some oyster. He's a automatic 15 dollars. His mother fucker orders six plates Of oysters at $15. He was like I'm not paying for this.
Speaker 1:This you think you're gonna get extra money from it.
Speaker 2:I don't, I don't know. He was like I'm not paying for the Glea, just left the money for the drinks and just rolled the fuck out. I. Didn't even matter that he mattered that he was like yo, like once again Did you head treat men like that's the weirdest bit, like, oh, what I it's like, oh, every date is like my birthday, I get whatever I'm like. That's not how that shit go. Shouldn't act.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I told my wife. I said I get it. I don't fall in check for having a Standard. Okay, I don't follow up. Have a say I don't even God's man and you.
Speaker 1:That's what that sounds like wait, but you, but you, but you. Now that, now that everybody started like Like the pick up for a shit is like you ain't gonna upset. Okay, yeah, let me get this, let me get this bitch. I don't like you that much like, okay, I look at the bill, it all I got was a three vodka, sodas, wings and fries and that came out to 40. I'm just saying this is upscale, that's what I'm saying. It is upscale, but our bill is 250. Who the fuck you think they're paying that shit? Yeah, oh well, you told me, get whatever boy. I said yeah, bitch, one play the plane After the first plate. Nigga you on your own.
Speaker 2:Oh, it was 48 oysters man 40 oh yeah, 48 oysters and the tab was like, after it was all sitting down, 184 dollars. I got it. That's an over as a bus wifey anniversary fucking crazy If I ain't you know.
Speaker 1:It's more than he probably left, because all he only had was probably journey.
Speaker 2:No, I'm leaving, cuz you don't fuck and respect me. Right, I can pull, I could do it, I can do that, but I'm not doing that.
Speaker 1:Right, just cuz I can take you in. I want them. Thing for it.
Speaker 2:And that's what I don't understand was like well, I do understand that because and this is just me most Women don't know how I manage their money most, so some of them feel and most men, some people feel I'm gonna just do it all this. Some people don't know how I manage their money and they feel like, since I got the money, I can spend it. And they're like no, no, no, no, no. There's other things you can do with your money, so you don't be caught in the band Like suck it away because maybe might get a flat tire the next day, like like that.
Speaker 1:I don't think that this older generation of people women, every man they listen to this younger music, thinking they can still live that 20 year old hot girl, hot boys, summer type shit, thinking that niggas really gonna be out here blowing bread on them because they could, because they think they have bad bitch Well, they say that they wouldn't do it if it wasn't working.
Speaker 2:So it does work. It's just that every now and then we hear these where they meet a real man and then that real man is like you know what? Fuck all this shit, fuck you, take you up, this is my wallet, like that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but it only works when it only works like a chick. A chick that does that only works if a guy allows it and then Do who's that doing the same shit only allows one business dog over on a blood. Oh my god, you did this and open up the pussy, but you know, something has to happen for these people to feel this way about it.
Speaker 2:Yep, once again, I I Think I really doubt that those women that act like that are really Busting it wide. What old guys that pay for shit like that?
Speaker 1:No, I don't think they are. I personally don't think they are. But you know what, you know who. I think they must. And they were out over for the niggas that can do it. The niggas you didn't Like yeah, you go out your way. You go out your way to call it because broke your shit and oh well, you gotta pull me. But as soon as a nigga that got the bread to do it, you won't get another pussy. But your goats would think with, with no money, that ain't ain't good. We would drop your panties for raising canes.
Speaker 2:Right, that's not a lot. At one party time they was the only foot your bullet.
Speaker 1:Hey look, I'm all Limeritas.
Speaker 2:You good this from my mask For a dozen crabs, but shit, yeah, that's. I don't need to be thinking like that. No more was more of us like, if that's what it takes, that I don't need you Nowhere in the vicinity of my, my essence, you know. I mean. So it's kind of like come on now like that's all it take, that's what you, that's what this is here for. Or I need to know here's the crate, here's the stew, is shit.
Speaker 2:Is there, say I need to know that you could be able to afford. If you can't afford this, this is next. But I'm like yo just pull up my link. This shit. You see my profession, go on glass door, do do the. Do the work that some of the Races do. Black women, the only woman that kind of just, kind of just jump right out there and do stupid shit like that White lady is like going your LinkedIn, probably see where you work, that it's earning potential. Is this, this and this? Plus, he installed Adam Indian woman to do the same thing, but not to black men, to other Indian men.
Speaker 1:I mean my wife's first date. We went to the ball and she was late. She was bought a solid 30. She was late. She would late. What? What? Also? It was no reservation, it was no, nothing was just she had. She was.
Speaker 1:She told was like I've been passing this place on my way home and going to work and I'm kind of yesterday and going to it, he'd mind if we go there. I said that's fine. He said I'll meet you there. So the whole thing, would they do that that wouldn't pick the chick up or eat any kind of pastry? Go, yeah, the word. I had a word, probably like well, you'll be coming inside and wait for you. Do you want me to wait outside? Blase, blase, it was. I was waiting on that, sexer, we, I got that, like you, did? She like oh no, I haven't left yet because blah, blah, blah. All right, cool, whatever. So I'm there for like 30, 40 minutes and she shows up and I'm just looking at her like he's serious, but I'm already there. So, all right, cool. Our second date, which is even fun it was just how I related this back around to me and my wife. So I thought I wanted to grab fat boys, as I put fat boys every episode, as always.
Speaker 1:Very so yeah, I was like hey, you wanna go to fat boys? He's like all right, cool. So so key, yeah, I'm a comment like I said okay, we'll meet me there for a cut. She didn't leave her house until nine o'clock. I'm like are you serious? So I'm already.
Speaker 2:Be true that she says you'll meet you there for that's all of the meat.
Speaker 1:We there at no no, no, I sort of mean we there at seven that I got finished done tutoring at a as six o'clock. Six thirty stars like me here at seven and she was like, all right, cool, she didn't lean and she didn't get. She wasn't on her way until about nine o'clock. I said what they call the 10th, so you glad, we made a great turtle. So in my head I'm like this sounds so familiar that, oh, I'm late Because blase, blase, and so we had to listen where else. But luckily my wife the nice, old, genuine and sexy person she is she was like, okay, we go to green turn, that's fine. And she was like, yeah, that's cool.
Speaker 2:And we would not sign a civil Situation, not the first or second, but multiple different ones. It's kind of similar to that and it was kind of like well, since you leave, you know here, you know there was. No, there was no bullshit like that, like the cheesecake situation. Only time I had something weird with my. It's not even weird as, like, we went to who knows and she ain't like the way the floor felt because of dirty issues. I can we leave my head? I was hungry as fuck. And me, bambi, I don't give a fuck, I'm hungry. I'm like yo, it's not way. No, goddamn, flip-flops, nigga. But you know it was on the date. And show my heart, bet we can do that. All right, some of that I'm on.
Speaker 2:One time, one of these dates, you we'll start to go to a car show downtown and ship Hamely, and I'm like yo, it's from this time. This time she was late as fuck, mr Carr show. I'm like yo, we missed the car show. Oh, we can still. I was like, nah, that's how we get there. I'm about the same situation. Oh well, let's go out to eat. Okay, let's go out to eat.
Speaker 1:We'll see. We, I guess we just have when. Let me work, it's hard.
Speaker 2:What was late. We just gave two examples. You gave two, I gave, yet we gave four examples of for example, right, I might be me and just being humble about yeah, I was late. I you know we can't do what we just want to do.
Speaker 1:And be an understanding about it Now.
Speaker 2:I will say, and this was like Like you all like first second date. So it's kind of like come on now or she won her first date and get taken to cheesecake. Listen back when I was like out there and young cheesecake wasn't you know. I mean like first year in a worse, you type shit.
Speaker 1:I Like fashion and say, bitches, love boy, that's going to fucking uh, that cheesecake. I remember my, my, my very first. I'm not very first, but my first valentine's day where I would like completely like, okay, this is a real valentine's day. So what, actually dressed up or whatever, not know, I'll come to the house and give me a gift like we actually went out somewhere that was not like Uh, down, pablo, or friday, it's a smoky bowl of chilies. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. And she was like, yeah, we should definitely go to cheesecake. Right, that's all right, cool, let's go to cheesecake factory. I ain't never been to motherfucking cheese yet. I'm just get. I'm literally.
Speaker 1:I want to say either I'm just going to college or it was a year that I had to do my extra year. I think it was the year I had to do my extra year. I'd be my extra year, um, and she was like, yeah, let's do that. I was all right, cool, yeah. And I was like she's like you never been to cheesecake factory? Yeah, I guess, if I know I never been. No goddamn cheesecake, right, it's just expensive. Yeah, but is that like 70, 18 years old, like that's just expensive?
Speaker 2:Yeah, it is expensive. That was recession, everything was expensive. One was uh, and that's, I guess, beauty, because when we were coming, like when we started like doing that, like fully, it was a recession. It was a recession for what? Like four or five years.
Speaker 1:For being in a recession. I don't want to say for me, 2003, 2004, there was no recession going on. Just yet there was a sudden.
Speaker 2:I had that, but you was in high school. Still, you was in your senior year, high school, right? What are we putting a red dot? That's all the bush. No 2003, 2004. You was in high school 2003, 2004.
Speaker 1:I was in my senior year. Yes, calcose graduate 2003, 2002, 2003. Yeah, so yeah.
Speaker 2:You had to give us that information.
Speaker 1:Look, man, look. I just want to use the know. You know, somebody looks at today's. Like you know, I got extra at the finish it. I just so happen to be smart enough to stay back a year and have to do another year, and it's still good to agree. That's all I'm saying. You know, I'm proud of the joy, we talking about it.
Speaker 2:2003 2004 high school right right.
Speaker 1:2003, 2004, the recession has had the. The original recession hadn't stopped. The recession started like 2007, I'm. Was it maybe 2008?
Speaker 2:It is okay. So what I'm saying is the high school don't count, college forward counts. So 1819, 20, like I say, we're dating during a recession. So, my session is fully ended, though I'll go bomb a guy at uh office.
Speaker 1:I think my word, my dating during the recession In the old bomb got an office with. Oh, that's what.
Speaker 2:I swatched a poble and Lamarita's hit so hard because it was the cheapest thing that you could do.
Speaker 1:I want to say because well, but Obama got over his old 809 and around that time, right.
Speaker 2:I want to say Session fully ended, probably about 2013.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so when I was dating during the Bush administration Um was that, war I guess the first time I would say I didn't really feel the recession too much.
Speaker 1:It in all, in all honesty, I didn't know, I didn't feel it. I didn't feel it, feel it until issue. I just feel it, feel it into 2009. Why, we were still in the recession and Obama trying to take this, wasn't Obama? Oh what Obama was trying to take us out the recession. I was at every fill it until then. Now, now, now you know I got loose and shit because I didn't know. So I got.
Speaker 1:I got to figure out when Obama again often because I feel like I'm saying it right but I'm saying it wrong, but but rock go, oh, here it goes. Good thing is all the correct. They follow her me to 2009. You know so, yeah, so, while Bush was trying to take what Obama was trying to take us out the recession because this is when gas prices were like four dollars for eighty seven- I mean it's kind of like that.
Speaker 1:No, I mean, it ain't like that, but it's like that. But what was like four dollars and like twenty nine cents for eighty seven. Oh, it was rough dating them because my government job came to pay for my habits and it couldn't take me to take these digits out and I felt some type of way about it Because I was like I can't even, like I was saying but I'm taking a bitch to Jasper, you know, saying, oh, you know, I thought she was so cute that I like, oh, you know, they're taking bitches to Todd Chili's and in the in the downtown, that in Chinatown I'm taking bitches out to place there. Once it was like I never been here. I don't think here, I've never been here. I'm like you ain't never been nowhere. Apparently, shit Like why am I going to be on it? But you ain't been nowhere, you know.
Speaker 1:But but I would say that was probably a rough time because the biggest thing was a gas project. The next thing was everything was a specialist Fuck. And then the next thing was every chick I was dating didn't have a fucking job. So that was, that was all me. I'm going to get a lot of. That was all me. They need to change that a bad as shit. That ain't got no jobs they can make us supposed to take care of.
Speaker 2:Let's listen to what's changed. Now. What's changed?
Speaker 1:Because I really love you. I'm double niggas. They're my mother.
Speaker 2:I ain't talking about you and talking about like in general, like it's still, it's still. They still don't be having jobs, but they're. Especially, your own boy is this, is it's a lady. You got a kid. In no way got now.
Speaker 1:I got a whole update on that when I was asleep.
Speaker 2:Listen, let's finish up these, this topic. Shit will be these women is as we. So you got oyster girl, 48 fucking oysters, and I was like why did he leave me? It was like the girl, because you ban, you ban fat being fat, fat. Very. She put look, she ordered 48 oysters, right, and she doesn't. He doesn't bother shit too. And I'm like yo, like, are you serious?
Speaker 1:Because, think about it, these oysters, these oysters had to either come in six or eight, right, six or eight If they came in order you order eight. You ordered eight of them. You know eight past. If you, they came in eight. You ordered six, nonetheless, at $15 a pop, at $15 of pop.
Speaker 2:It's a 15 a plate yeah 15 of 15 of a plate.
Speaker 1:If you, if there were eight and you order six plates, that's $90 off the back, right? If they came in sixes, that means you ordered eight. That's a fucking hundred twenty dollars off the back. And if the bill was out of the 80. All the way.
Speaker 1:Right, if the bill was 180, ok, I'm going to go for the maximum sound of it. Of that, there was six on the plate and she ordered eight over. It's a hundred twenty dollars If all I, if all I got was some beer, maybe some liquid and maybe advertising that we don't pay for that shit. You know why? Because I was a 20 year. Shit that I don't, I didn't even try. If I didn't try, I didn't eat it. Fuck you bitch.
Speaker 2:That this is back for thing is a shorty on the copy you were about. We won't go off for drinks. No, I'm a catcher Uber. But yeah, I want to meet you for drinks and you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. If I'm eating for drinks and we pay for a drink and I'm paying for drinks, why the fuck do you think you want to order 48 oysters and still pack away some food after that? Like, nah, all we did was you had to do. He paid for the drinks and got the fuck about it.
Speaker 1:And if I didn't block her out here? If I just say, hey, are you hungry? You want something to eat? Then, bitch, don't expect me to pay for the food, Don't expect. I got to fill my where you go. Well, I got to find this store. I'm so glad I'm not out there, oh, because it's just stupid.
Speaker 2:I was just reading the article saying that millennials in Gen Z are now the and incorporating and developing dating debt. Like they're using their credit cards to make, go on dates and and do either striving and things and stuff like that and they're in debt because of it. And I'm like what the fuck Like the world really is crazy. Whereas, like no, you, if you the women don't feel special unless it's $200 dates, unless it's the $200 meal, she could take dessert home. Oh, and you better not order dessert as a man, because she's not going to think you, she's not going to see you as a man because you took dessert home as well. Like stupid shit, like that.
Speaker 2:Oh, and about to be a chain restaurant. It needs to be a restaurant that's Michelin, five star, gordon Ramsay type shit. It's like, but I'll never see you again. So I'm supposed to spend like a quarter of my check To take you out for you to eat good 48 oysters and some more shit and I'll never say that. I'll never say that I'll never see you again. That doesn't make sense to me.
Speaker 1:It don't make sense. It don't make sense at all Because as I walk him back to the seat, because that I'm just going to bring a little bit with me, it don't make sense at all because it's like how? So? And this is why I'm always going to lead it to Okay, and I know a lot of people are always asked that's a fucking way to think about it. But You're expecting to get this is the extravagant meal out of this whole thing. But you expected not let me up, you, you, you not let me up to your place.
Speaker 2:I don't get that. That's a youth thing, I don't need care about that. It's just like yo.
Speaker 1:Oh no, I mean, I don't want to say this, I mean you, you, you. You got all these standards of not letting me read all this on the first week because you don't know me. Why am I paying all this money on the first day, but I don't know you either?
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what you said.
Speaker 1:Like I don't, I don't know you. Like you, you're like oh well, I don't know you, so I'm not doing this, but I don't know you either. So why? You know, why am I doing all this for you?
Speaker 2:And they have a thought that, like yo, I never thought you. Did you ever think they think like yo? Like if I exhibit this type of behavior, he's not going to want to keep me in this house where I might just keep spending money Like I want to think them, I want to feel that, I want to know that men don't see it as attractive Like, oh, you can't, you like nothing can satisfy you.
Speaker 1:Honestly, I don't think that we're going to satisfy these measures. Sometimes I'm going to keep a warm hearted and I'm glad I'm married at this point because it's like, Just see what you know. Like I go out to the bar, I do all the other shit now and I'll talk to people and they'd be like oh yeah, this guy can't paint with this, I ain't fuck with him, He'll dry. This type of like. I had a. I had a little chicken, the bar to see what's our most of. Oh yeah yeah, If you got an iPhone, I don't fuck with you, but what the fuck iPhone guy doing fucking with me for?
Speaker 2:Like don't have one, or if he has one if you don't have one, she ain't fucking with you. You got to see, I've heard that. I've heard that before too.
Speaker 1:But in my head. In my head I was just like I'm like what was the difference between the iPhone and the regular phone? Along with I don't see? I feel like I was a little people that slow. Anyway, or that is my personal opinion.
Speaker 2:That's my opinion too, but is the theory one that there are you on that I false tend to cost a lot of money, so they equate you having an iPhone, you having money. That's just what it is.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:But I mean, there's some Android calls more than an iPhone, but you can't tell them that because, remember, I follow the foot, don't people? So they don't understand why I will cost as much or what it can do and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:Right, my own blue thing Right. I get it. I get like. I always tell people I get the women's, I want to have standards, but Make sure.
Speaker 2:how about the day on work the right?
Speaker 1:one Right.
Speaker 2:They're not doing it the right way. You'll lose the good caliber guy each and every time you do some shit like that.
Speaker 1:Right, so you know, I get. It Is what it is, I mean.
Speaker 2:So your own boy.
Speaker 1:Just like that, all right, so you know you. Just a recap for everybody that's been listening there are, there are. So he's been messing with the chick for three years. Mind you, I didn't realize it had been three years, but it's been three years. They're engaged Too low, they aren't married, but they've been engaged.
Speaker 1:When she finally decided to let him have a chance with her, she said well, I'm not dating, I'm dating to get married. So he started dating her, got engaged, but he would never send with a product anything. He sent with a product until about three months in, okay, and for anyone who doesn't know what, three months into their engagement. Because he, they got together in two weeks later they were engaged. That may shut man. So, yeah, they, they, he gets engaged for two weeks and doesn't fuck her until two months, okay, um. So he had his reservations about it because now she quit a job, because he's like oh well, you know, I really didn't want to work here with this law blase, blase, whatever, whatever, and just say other things. So he comes, you know, he comes through and, like last week I told he came through, he was somewhat breaking up with her blase blood. So he calls me this week and I'm like you know, hey, what's up, bro? He's like, yeah, you know, um, I'm on my way to go break up with her.
Speaker 2:I said all right, what else?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yes, yeah, now, now it on the inside of me I was like, yes, nigga, fuck you, we're all nigga, power out this motherfucker. And that's what I was thinking in my head. But in my other head I was like the game ought to do this shit. You know, I'm like you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you saying that, but I don't really think you're doing so. You know, on the day they was going to, he calls me. He's like you know, you know, you, you think I'm doing the right thing. I said, well, look, fam, I'm going to put to you like this. You already, you already told me the math. You said, since you've been working in these three years, you have given her, not paid for, not not done all this other shit. You have given her 40 Gs, okay, no, he needs to leave, I see.
Speaker 1:That's the same. That's absolutely I don't want to. It was you. Yeah, shit, you don't gave her 40 grand. You don't gave her 40 grand, and that's not including paying her mortgage, that's not including taking her her some places. That's not including internet. You talking about actually cash app in the motherfucker 40 grand. Okay, so that's not you. You're talking about what? What cash app told you you gave her. You're not even talking about what you've already done as being her man.
Speaker 2:It was in dates and Right Christmas yeah.
Speaker 1:And so I told he was like you know. He was like I'll know, like I'm thinking about us, like look, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm going to put you like this I am. Here's what it is. Reality is, if, if you want to continue in this direction, up this shit and and deal with this chick who's only using for your money, who left her job Because she wanted to be taken care of, because that's how she felt she should be, go ahead and do it. I said, if you hold off on breaking up with her still saying the same shit, Because any person who's like you know I'm a break up with him. Now I'm a break up with him they never break up with them. All they do is complain about them for the next 50 years. So you're telling me that you want to do this. Just do it like it. At the end of the day, all I, all I've ever heard is horrible things.
Speaker 1:I mind you, at a very beginning, when we first started talking about this story because we haven't talked about this story in about a year has changed that she left her job, everything else, everything was fine, but he he finally broke down. It was like the shit doesn't go away. She keeps telling me I make this bad purchase, how you make this purchase knowing that your, that your fiance needs this and your closet. And I said, well, you know what I'm a whole I'm to put you like this If she knows she needs that, why the fuck she leave her job? If she knows she needs this, why the fuck she leave her job? Like when you leave and I know you want to pay her mortgage and then this part, I want to get your pain, or it was. He said that he was going to pay her mortgage into the entity and I told him fuck. No, why the fuck? You remember last?
Speaker 2:episode, I was like if he was feeling a certain type of way, like you're a little like like gently, you know, really really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really hard to rest Because that your eᵇ�すご어 when somebody pops up and says, oh die, I was tired of going to the.
Speaker 1:But you know what, that could also be a thing you know my, my, my, my, my, my, my, petty as my mind, mind, mind, mind, don't care about the motherfuckers ass. I was like I put you this way, fam. I say, look, if she decided to leave her job, decided she was gonna do this, and you decide to leave and she's like, well, how are you gonna just leave me hanging, like this, someone who you care about in love? I'll be like, well, that's a good question. Why did you leave your job, something that you could pick up with her family with? Why did you make? You made all the crazy thing and she has a head that's not here.
Speaker 2:I don't know this. I would never understand.
Speaker 1:Yo, this, this, this first up, and I tell my she does not make good decisions.
Speaker 2:That's not so. I need to be marrying anyway.
Speaker 1:Exactly cuz he, cuz he was like you know you like. Well, you know, I know you, I know your wife has a son before you got married, I said but my wife took care of she would never do nothing like that. Exactly, my wife, my wife, was Nowhere close to being like, oh well, you know what? Oh, I got this nigga with his own business. He worked for math nasal, let me quit my job. No, she's not like that.
Speaker 1:My, my wife's a hustler. My wife will go out here and go get him because she knows that any day in time she could be right back on her on her own, so does what she has to do to make sure she tastes care of her and her son. It is not take care of her, her son and me, it's her and her son in a day. She knows I always take care of myself and if I have to, I'll take care of her and her son. Hey, it's one of those things where it's like, if you, you're, you're going out your way to like be daddy to this kid and this woman who she doesn't really appreciate, she wants you, she wants you to take care of her whole life so that you could be daddy, but you ain't daddy.
Speaker 1:You'll say like you, you, you, you, you're, you're, you're stressing yourself out, your we're working more hours and she's gonna play like he's like I'm, like I'm little, I mean pretty much. He's like I made I'm gonna give the wrong number, but I made 150k Last year. There's nothing number he made. It was a lot less than that. But I must say but yeah, I made 150k. But she complains that I worked too much and he's like bitch, I had to pay your morgues, I had to do this, I had to do this by Zaybaz it. So what you mean like you, you decide to leave not did not make the money you were making, just because I was making what I was making. Like not, it's no. I said nigga, you should have been gone, you should have been called you know what I'm saying yeah, let's say Each abouts.
Speaker 1:Well, I'm going to say I haven't talked to him yet. Yesterday was the day they was breaking off, I still.
Speaker 2:We bounce 40, 40, 40 k is too much.
Speaker 1:As much as it's funny but it's a crazy thing.
Speaker 2:She was. She, once again, is like not even doing the hard work. We're doing the work that she's supposed to do. If you feel like he's gonna be taking care of you and shit like that, wait till you get fucking married, mm-hmm. I would think you would want to lock that down first. I would think you, with this man making this amount of money like y'all, we need to get married in three months, right, I like so much, I love you so much. This is net. You should have been throwing it at him. You know, don't my them the machines that they put the Chipotle burritos and to shoot them into the names at the fucking, at the fast and long game, the shit like that. That's what should have been doing. That's what she should have been. No point. Well, I ain't doing none of that. So to me, makes that thing like you. Don't like that motherfucker for real. That's what it makes this thing like but.
Speaker 1:But here's the funny part. He said that bitch pussy was weak at her mouth game.
Speaker 2:Down what I mean. If you know, or she don't, or she don't like it's weak, or she don't like him like, or she don't like him like that, or she don't like him like that, hey look, he was like.
Speaker 1:He was like when he finally, when he finally hit it this three years ago, when he finally hit. Why'd he tell you that?
Speaker 2:I mean now, don't think about it, that could be his potential wife. Why he telling you that?
Speaker 1:Well, because I think he knew he wasn't gonna marry the bitch. But he's like, when I finally was like, well, I finally fucked this bitch and she finally gave me some mouth, he was like the ship was weak. He was like he didn't do none this shit that he knew that he could do if she's literally laid there like a log, and then like, when it was time to hit it from the back, she just, she just was there Like it wasn't, like she did anything as traffic. Yes, so were he like I don't like him. No. Then he said, when it was, when he was like yo, you need to do this and training her. She's like oh, wow. Now. He said, now, she isn't on par, but she's better than where she was three years ago. Well, her mouth game is still a little suspect. I was like Wow.
Speaker 2:It's sad.
Speaker 1:I'm just like, yo like.
Speaker 2:Well, basically what he just admitted to you, that ain't even 40k pussy.
Speaker 1:That's not even 40k pussy or 40k mouth. Like I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 2:I've been with this year. No, with these other gold digging bitches out here you go get some spit and some more shit like they try to lock down and and poposky, but you want child support.
Speaker 1:They love. I've been with bitches who, who got 40k mouths and it's like yo, all right, bet, like yo, what's up, what's your knee? Type shit. You know what I'm saying. But if she ain't got 40k pussy or 40k mouth, like nigga, you, you all here, you, you just drop 40k and it's not even worth it, like you don't even think this is wifey material.
Speaker 2:But right he does not. We wouldn't all respect her and him because we don't know if they still together. So I'm gonna put that out there. I am not disrespecting, but you can't say he can't, he won. You should have told you that. You should have told you that after y'all got that they broke up, and then you'd be like you know what this church, this shit was trash anyway. But now that he said it and I feel like I gotta talk about it- yeah, no, I get it.
Speaker 1:I get it. I mean, I look, the way I always see this shit is, if you, if you go, go all out because, like my, one of my other cousins posted a facebook post about, like you know, everybody bases their relationship off sex, I want to base my shit, my relationship, off of something totally different. I'm like, well, so In the end of the day, it's the bull down to sex. I mean, let's say, even if you base it off of conversation, if the sex is weak, the sex is weak and let's do.
Speaker 2:As a major component and pillar in the relationship, but it should not be the only pillar that holds the house up.
Speaker 1:You can't be afraid To grow, you can't be afraid to be upset about so, you can't be afraid to leave her like you're not even married and you're you over. It's just most of that's just about I want about my wife, right? Yeah, you know, get your life, wait to you, wait to get married to, had the same as you. Why are you going gray, already based on.
Speaker 2:Shit like this and and so, and, to wrap it up, you can do better.
Speaker 1:You can do better. That's, sir. That's where boys after you can do better.
Speaker 2:Thank you everybody for tuning in. See you next time. See you next time.