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According To Wes
Finding the humor in everyday life and trying to understand what that means to me Join me on this never ending journey of self improvement and reflection with the help of friends.
According To Wes
Foul Play and Romantic Riddles
My love language is expensive car parts but I'll settle for a new video game and some good food
fucking question comes up like what you want? I'm like in my head, I'm like I feel like I'm the fucking bougie bitch because I'll be like yo, what I want, I'm not going to ask you to buy because it costs too much fucking money. It costs. Listen, listen. What I truly want right now is going to be like one of the things I want is going to be like two thousand dollars. What I actually want is going to be yeah, what I actually want is going to be like 15. So it's kind of like yo, I'll be. That's when I've resolved to your shit, like I'll be happy with this, this and this. Go pick me up a video game. You know, give me some. It's gonna be a good day. Everybody. Welcome to another episode of uh, the important west podcast and, as always, we got DeLaw here.
DeLaw:You got DeLaw the head coach, the assistant coach of the Green Belt.
Wes:Dragons Yo, I don't even think he coached for that team. He don't even know the fucking mascot.
DeLaw:I think we're the Dragons. When I coached at Mount Oak, we were the Saints. When I coached for my uncle's team, jehovah Christian Ministries, we were, I want to say, the Warriors. This is my look. I've been with the team for two weeks. I don't even know them little niggas' names, I just be like hey you come, hey you come here, come here, move here all right.
Wes:So we got d-law. Don't know who their names are. Devil son of all, you got me west.
DeLaw:Uh, just trying to facilitate all of this and, like my wife asked me, she said so how do you think you played? I said you, let me tell you from a, a fan perspective, or from a coach perspective, or a coach perspective. She was like, uh, I don't share with you. I said I'll tell you from mine. I said we play like pure trash yeah you know, we scored 10 points.
DeLaw:The other, by the time we scored, the other team already had nine. You know, we didn't. And the weirdest thing, and I was telling my old supervisor, the head coach. So he asked me to come on board and I was telling him I was like you know, I said we're getting all hyped up and he's like, well, at least we don't have to. I said I wasn't a very big, let's get hype, coach, we're winning it. Here's the game plan. Let's do this, let's do this, let's do this. One, two, three, whatever. You know what I mean. They all, yeah, they get all hype, they get all hype. As soon as the ball tipped off and that team scored the first two points in the first five, ten seconds of the game, they all went out the window.
Wes:I was like Lord, I remember one time this was like one of the games, one of the only games my mama came to and I just got blown out. By who we get blown out by. I forget the team, but the motherfucker, I forget the team. I was just like damn, this had to be the one game my mom come to. I hit my mom to. I'm in the car. They just seemed like they was more aggressive and they wanted it more than y'all. That was the first time I wanted to say yo, you need to mind your business. Did you know what you didn't say? I didn't say shit. I said that shit under my breath. I said that shit as I went to bed last night. You need to mind your business, these little motherfuckers.
DeLaw:I said that shit as I went to bed last night. You need to mind motherfucker, these little motherfuckers, not to call them little motherfuckers, because they're good kids. We got a couple kids that this is their first year playing basketball, so they're still getting accustomed to it. First year, 11 and under.
Wes:Oh, it's 11 and under 11 and under First year organized, first year organized, first year organized.
DeLaw:So imagine it's your first year organized.
Wes:You have my old supervisor, who is Not on the plan that first year organized.
DeLaw:So you got your head coach. Former Georgetown player played with Alonzo Moore and played with AI. You got me, who I coached at high school level, middle school level, girls, boys, mixed. I done played throughout my whole life. I have a nose and nose of the game. You got two guys who know what they're doing. You got a bunch of kids. You got two solid kids who could really, who won't even focus enough to learn from us. Then you got the rest of them. As soon as a butterfly goes flying there's no butterflies in the wintertime, what the fuck? Oh shit, you see that we try to win games or we just here to have fun, like I mean, I don't want to tell the kids like look, I ain't you know, because we're not supposed to according to the code of conduct. I ain't here to lose no games, I'm here to win this is what you say.
Wes:None of us here is to waste. None of us here. None of us are here to waste our time. That us here, none of us are here to waste our time. That is a way of skirting around. I'm not here to lose, no fucking games you should not be here to lose no games. Do you know how well your life can be in middle school if you win games? You gotta be able to skirt around their. You know a?
Wes:way or skirt around the things you ain't supposed to say to pique their interest, Because we all know winning games and how you get treated in school, the stories you hear I'm not saying, but you get what I mean.
DeLaw:Because they could have easily got the Lord of the Devil son-in-law yesterday and it wouldn't have been good. I'd have, because they could have easily got D-Law, the devil's son-in-law, yesterday and it wouldn't have been good. I'd have been like, look, you can't, they went on yet, but you can't get come back, you can't do these. But I kept it, I kept it, I kept it, just D-Law. You won't believe what happened to me.
Wes:I'm sure I won't. Camera's still fucking up. I don't know why I did the update, man.
DeLaw:Oh, man, man, man man.
Wes:Lord, you had a fight someone. Hmm, you had a fight someone.
DeLaw:Nah, nah, nah, nah, no. So a person. You know I'm not against women, I'm not against the feminist movement. So here we go. The feminist movement is the dumbest shit ever. The feminist movement has created theseest shit ever. The feminist movement has created these modern women who don't like men and they want all men to be women so that they can like them. It's craziness, but, lord, I don't even know where to start. I'll just start from the beginning. So I was told at my job by the young lady there that I was displaying toxic masculinity.
DeLaw:No, you know Someone told you that at the job, yeah, you were displaying toxic masculinity. And I said why you say that? Because the job, yeah, you're displaying toxic masculinity. And I said why you say that? Because, like, you're doing things that are toxic. I said so what did I do?
Wes:well, I was telling you about my boyfriend and lady, I don't even hear this shit now.
DeLaw:It's like I was telling you about my boyfriend and you told me that he wasn't wrong for telling me about myself. I said because he wasn't.
Wes:I said my whole thing is talking, go ahead.
DeLaw:He wasn't. He told you you being a brat, you being ungrateful, you being this, and you were. I said in the day if I was back in the dating pool, who's dealing with that shit? I said in the end of the day, if I was back in a dating pool, who's dealing with that shit? I said at the end of the day, you out here expecting him to give you diamond and gold all you got is sex.
Wes:You didn't say that Okay, okay, that's another situation. That's an HR call at that point.
DeLaw:Yeah, that's an HR call, but pretty much I said all you have to offer is sex that you've given to other guys. That's what I thought, that's how I said it. So you can't be mad that he's ready to move on and he don't want you. So what's the issue? You didn't hear my side of it. You know he would. He hit me. So why'd you stay? Well, because I thought it was just one time I said well, you're done for that. Well, you know he's. He's like 20 years older than me, so why are you dating whoa, whoa, whoa? So once he said that, I was like well, why, why are you dating a 20 year old? Then you got it. Oh, you know, um, there's no good guy out there.
Wes:I said it probably is yo for sure the fuck yo it probably is.
DeLaw:I said you just think they lame, you think they more, they don't fit your swag.
Wes:I don't understand how a 20 year old man does. If that's the case, hold on. So first of all, you gotta back this up just a smidge. You told she didn't okay, she was acting like a brat, her defense was you didn't Okay she was acting like a brat. Her defense was you didn't hear my part.
DeLaw:I didn't.
Wes:I didn't tell you my part.
DeLaw:I didn't validate her part.
Wes:I didn't validate her part. You don't know the whole story. He hit me.
DeLaw:But she tells me that after the fact she didn't tell me that when she really told me the story.
Wes:What was her part again that, uh, you told us last time he put his hands on her, pretty much what she said no, no, no, no, no. Before you found that out, you told me this last time we talked that she was a brat. What was the reason you said she was a brat again?
DeLaw:who was it? That was a long time ago. No, no, this is a different guy. Hold up.
Wes:No, no, no, Hold up. We've had this conversation like this. I've heard this before.
DeLaw:That was a different person.
Wes:So another person got called a Brett Okay. Why did she got called a brat? Okay, why did she get called a brat?
DeLaw:Because the guy she said. So what I gather from she wouldn't tell me the whole thing. I gather she was asking for too much. Oh well, how come you don't take me out no more? How come you don't do this? Like you got me. Now we just sitting out like just being like a brat, like I get it, you want to go out, you want to do this. But have you ever asked him? And I said did you ever ask him what's going on? Do you care about his emotional well-being? Maybe something's going on. He just wants to talk to somebody emotionally there to be trying to support you in whatever bullshit you're going through. Yeah Well, why does it matter? Like I'm supposed to be the main thing for him. Like, why, like I get it, he goes through stuff and I listen to him. But like who really cares?
Wes:I'm like, well, that's why she said who really cares? Who really cares, and that was verbatim, that's why you called him a brat I why you called him a brat. I mean, that's why you called her a brat. Yes, okay, that sounds like brat shit.
DeLaw:It sounds like brat shit. And so she's like, well, you know, he hit me. I said, oh, okay, well.
Wes:Why'd she throw that out there so casually? Did she throw it out there casually?
DeLaw:No, she said you don't know the whole story about all of it and how I've been trying to support him, and you know, but he done hit me a couple of times. I said, okay, then lead off with that. Lead off with that.
Wes:You're trying to justify your attitude based on it sounds like first time hearing. What it sounds like is that she wasn't getting a response. She was getting, so she was like victim. Well, he hit me, he's been hitting me and it's kind of like and granted, not granted, I take it.
DeLaw:I'm not for guys hitting women.
Wes:I'm not either, but how old is this woman?
DeLaw:just to protect the innocent, we'll say 30. I mean we don't know her, but her boo thing is like 50, 60, somewhere around that age range. She said 20 years I don't know how old the motherfucker is so that when she said he was, I think she said he was like 60, so I'm assuming she's around.
Wes:I'm only asking that because it's kind of like you have the wherewithal, you should have the wherewithal and the experience. I would assume. Asking that because it's kind of like yo, you have the wherewithal, you should have the wherewithal and the experience. I would assume at that age you know what. This ain't cool. No man should be putting his hands on me. My experience usually brats are usually the ones that start putting their hands on you first.
DeLaw:Now, this is the kicker, this is the part that got me. Now, mind you, she from Prince George, she from Suitland or whatever and I was like, shout out to Suitland, shout out to Suitland. I was like In my head, I'm like y'all were just talking about getting married and I'm like how y'all just gonna all of a sudden just break up like that, like what the nigga do? She's like, well, he's not a nigga, he's a white man. I said, oh lord you're so stupid.
Wes:You're so stupid. I'm not laughing at that. I'm not laughing at that.
DeLaw:I'm not laughing at that and it wasn't that I wanted to stereotype the white dude, because we always see them TV shows and movies where the white dudes the oldest shit messing with them, young gents just smacking them around. That's what popped in my head when he said it. I was like, are you serious? I'm like so let me get this straight. You got men your age and you go for the old wrinkly white dick, like, come on, like, make it make sense. And you go for the old wrinkly white dick, like come on, like, make it make sense. And I told her your first mistake was I tried to use straight face.
Wes:Okay, hold on, hold on, I'm going to do it straight face. So hold on. God damn, hold on. I can't see your face because your screen is frozen. Alright, I'm going to do it Straight face.
DeLaw:So hold up, goddamn Hold up.
Wes:I can't see your face because your screen's frozen. Yeah, my shit fucked up.
DeLaw:I can imagine what it looks like.
Wes:So, so hold up. So why? Okay, what was the kicker? She that you, she said that part, but the time that you do, you know, the times that he put hands on her, for no, I, that was my first time hearing it I'm not, so I'm not adding up.
Wes:I'm not. No man should be putting their hands on a woman. I'm not. That's not the part that's not adding up. The part that's not adding up is why are you still there? Usually someone is being abused. They don't tell you someone. That's to say someone's being abused. I would assume and for my, uh, I don't have that much experience in it because I ain't doing the abusing and I really don't um know too many women that are that have been abused. I know some. They don't exhibit brat behavior and stay with the guy.
DeLaw:I think they so because remember I talked about the little 21 year old messing with the dude from the other state, this one, I think she has kids by her, the older guy yeah. Then she got like two kids by the white guy.
DeLaw:Oh, my gosh so and, mind you, I don't have no kids except for my step-sister. I don't know how it is for women when you're in that sort of relationship and you got kids. I don't know if it is hard to leave or if you don't want to leave because Yo, no, no, no, no, no.
Wes:The thing is, you said that she said yeah, you got feelings, you're probably dealing with stuff, but who cares? Do you think someone is getting abused? That sounds like something that they would say.
DeLaw:I put this way, I think it would be something that someone would say that's fed up.
Wes:With the abuse and stuff like that. You can't keep saying that that's the reason why you're doing it. I got that. I can understand that.
DeLaw:She's fed up, because she was like yeah, blah, blah, blah. And so pretty much from what I gather from her is that he's moved out, he left the house and now they're selling the house because they live together. And so you know, that's why I'm like, that's why, when she said it and she was like alright, well, clearly you guys are broken. You finally left. But in my head I'm like so you got two kids by this dude. You are selling your house, y'all about to get married. So now I guess you know now you're not getting married, no more. You're like man, fuck that nigga, fuck this, fuck that blah blah. Because now you're sitting, you're not getting married, no more. You're like man, fuck that nigga, fuck this, fuck that blah blah. Because now you fed up.
DeLaw:But not once did you think, okay, how do I do better in this relationship? Like? It to me would always sounded like was, do this for me, do this for me, do this for me, do this for was, do this for me, do this for me, do this for me, do this for me, do this for me. And you already know this dude's been married once. So if you never asked him, well, how did your last relationship end Like there's questions. You got to ask him, man, but it sounded to me that it was about her, and when he had something on his mind that he wanted to say and she's like man, she decided man, fuck your feelings, nigga. It got to a point where maybe he did touch her, which was wrong. It's just completely wrong, definitely.
DeLaw:But if you're in a relationship with somebody and they can't feel like they can talk to you, eventually they're going to explode. Black, white, asian, don't matter who it is, man or woman. If I don't valid, if I don't talk to my wife and and and get her to come out and say what was on her mind, she's gonna blow the fuck up. Yeah, it's the reality of it. And I, and even me telling my wife, I said look, you can't every time I tell you something you can't say well, you know, it's funny how you say this, but you do this. No, no, that is not what the issue is. Anytime he told you something, did you say that. Well, I mean, he told me I did this, but that's what he said.
Wes:But once again, it's not good communication, it's combative communication.
DeLaw:Combative communication, because now you're attacking me, so now I'm going to tell you what you did to piss me off.
Wes:It's like, oh so not taking criticism, basically, or accountability, that thing, that that it's so elusive for some, for some people and and the majority of those people are women so elusive that accountability? Oh my gosh, goodness, that accountability. Oh my gosh, goodness forbid. I tell you like, hey, this is something I don't like that you're doing. How could you tell me that I'm doing everything right, I'm perfect, right?
DeLaw:And that's how they think of it. And then, when you hear them talk about that, well, he thought he was perfect, he thought he did everything right.
Wes:Well, what did he do wrong? Well, he did this thing. If you don't never tell me I'm doing something wrong, I'm going to think I'm doing everything right, and that's what I always tell my wife. I'm like yo don't have me feeling like I'm doing everything right, cause that's the and I'm doing and I'm actually doing something wrong, cause that's the number one thing that my pet peeve is that I hate like smiling and thinking I'm, you know, I got shit going on, I'm this, this, this and this, and all the while you're sitting in the corner struggling and shit, and it could be something that I could change, like at that drop of a hat and then you happy again.
Wes:I would hate for my wife or my wife because I mean, I'm the other woman. I wait for my wife to feel like you know, I ain't doing what I'm supposed to do or to make, not to make her happy, but just to make sure that she she's comfortable being my wife. You know what I mean. Like the other, happiness, shit, some of that shit I can't control, like I can't. You know what I mean. Like the other stuff that I can't control, I can't control that's, that's what it is. That is what it is, but outside of that, yeah, I would love to do any and everything so this is.
DeLaw:This is when I became the devil's son-in-law on the back half of this conversation. So she said well, you know, this 2025 is going to be working on me. I said, okay, that's cool.
Wes:Working on you is a never-ending thing.
DeLaw:Right. So here I go. I said so what are you going to work on? And she just looked at me like what? I said, yeah, what are you going to work on? And she just looked at me like what? I said, yeah, what are you going to work on? I mean working on you. What are you going to work on? I mean, you can't just say work on you and not have a goal of what you're going to work on. Oh well, you know my attitude. What about your attitude? What do you mean? My attitude as a whole. I said why you want to keep things to yourself.
Wes:At that point she had already pissed me off by calling me toxic masculinity, that I just wanted to be a pure asshole just for that, I'm going to make you think twice about what the hell you done said and hopefully I send you home more confused than you already are because you a confused motherfucker. I've done that. I've done that. I was like, oh, we're going to break down your shit today.
DeLaw:Right, because you know what, because let it have been me, that's the question somebody would ask me. I'm like so, I said so what's wrong with your attitude? What does?
Wes:that mean to you Like, because attitude is a broad, broad term. They're like what about your attitude? Is it good, is it bad? Are we going to do this? We're going to do this all the way, and then I'm going to show you that you're just saying stuff and you have no plans to actually do it.
DeLaw:You're saying something that's going to sound good, because when you go out and you start messing with other dudes, well you know, I don't want to be just working on myself.
DeLaw:Well, bitch, what you're working on. How long does it take you to work on yourself? Did you go to counseling? Did you do this? Well, no, I don't believe in Okay. Well, cool, that's fine. So you said you can work on your mouth, but at what point did you talk to somebody about why you do all this? Why are you just spitting shit out your mouth just to hurt somebody's feelings? Well, if they hurt my feelings, that's the case.
Wes:One thing is you need to work on being vindictive. That is clearly right there, right, listen, the fact that I said that working on yourself should be a never ending thing. Anytime I'm talking to any of the homies or whoever have you even family members and they ask that stuff, I can, without hesitation, tell you all the things I need to work on, because it's constantly smacking me in the face Like I either cause some harm in some way because I did it or said it, or not acting accordingly, or whatever, whatever, whatever, like that's how some people need no, all people need to live that way. Be aware of your shortcomings, the only way you're going to get better and they don't become shortcomings. You know you might overcome that. You don't have that flaw anymore. You don't have that, uh, that bad habit.
Wes:But a lot of people like paying that lip service, shit like oh, I'm gonna work on it, this, this and that. Oh, they made me go back to the old me. They made me do this, this and this. Oh, I'm going back to you. Know what? They made me do this, this and this, or I'm going back to you know what I mean? It's just kind of like nah, you're choosing to.
DeLaw:Yeah, because I'll say this for women, and I'm not going to say men aren't the same way, but for a lot of women, men, are definitely the same way.
DeLaw:I'm not saying they aren't, but you hear from women. They made me go up. Well, even my woman. They made me go up. Even my wife. She almost brought the bitch out of me. I said, well, how did she do that? Well, because she was asking me these questions and she knew I didn't know the answer. I said, well, how do you know the answer? Because they didn't train me on it. I said, okay, I mean, I get that, but how are they going to bring something out of you? And she's just like you know what? Never mind, I don't even want to talk about it. I'm just asking because you're telling me they're about to do this, they're about to almost bring this out, which means that now you want to bring this home. So I need to know what am I preparing for?
DeLaw:I mean, I know dudes that be like man. I went out to the bar and this dude kept challenging me. So, man, he brought an old me. I had to smash it. Everybody has that moment. But I feel like women they always say dudes got short fuse. I feel like women have no fuse. Yeah, women have no fuse.
Wes:You know what's crazy about that whole? What we're talking about now Today I was thinking because I was talking to one of my homegirls about some stuff and it was kind of like she made a statement about. She didn't make a statement, it was just like a comment. Like you know, I'm just trying not to be that way this year and this is like the same whole thing. Like the old me, or what I'm trying to not do is this, this and that. And I thought about I'm like I think sometimes, with certain people, they run into a wall when they get in the mindset of like I'm still fleshing this out, I just thought about it today. They get into the mindset of like yo, I'm trying to not be the old me, but you gotta recognize. I feel like you need to acknowledge what makes you that way and don't change that. You are that way, but change what you do when that, when that moment or that feeling comes about. Because if that is who you are like, then that's who you are. That's who you are. However, um, I'm still fleshing it out, so that's why I sound like a bunch of whatever. If that's who you are, that's who you are. However, um, okay, I'll give you a better example. This is probably the best way to explain this.
Wes:Tupac. I know I'm going left field with this shit. Tupac side note. Before I get to the Tupac shit, we got robbed of a tiny Tupac side note. Before I get to the Tupac shit, we got robbed of a Tiny Desk Tupac situation. Think about how dope that would have been. We would have got some poetry, we would have got some thug-ass shit. But that's a whole other conversation.
DeLaw:I would have said the same thing about Big.
Wes:Yeah.
DeLaw:But before you finish your story I'm going to say this the Tiny Desk. I'm not saying this for people who are trying to revitalize a career or they're on tour or something, but by that point I don't think they would have been too interested in doing Tiny Desk because they you know everyone that's done it has been like well, they came out like they made mainstream at like 99, 2000. You know what I'm saying? Tupac and Big 92. You know if I saw Nas?
DeLaw:on Tiny Desk alright, but Wu-Tang is the only ones from that Biggie and Tupac era that I've seen on there, and they didn't even have all of Wu-Tang. They had the Wu-Tang part that wasn't Method man Right.
Wes:The only reason why I say Tupac is because, um, his range as far as talent and creativity was so vast that he could have been doing some poetry. He could have been doing new poetry that we never heard of. He would have been reciting some of this stuff as poetry Might have been. We don't know what Tupac would have done, but that's our vision of shit. We would have got some poetry. We would have got some raps. We would have got some thought-provoking stuff we would have got. He might have showed up in all black and had the Black Panther's whole situation. That's what I'm saying.
DeLaw:I think they more or less robbed us of a Tupac Biggie. Well, not Tupacupac, but them individually. If they, or if they did squash, it'd be of a front porch before Tiny Desk.
Wes:Tupac would've jumped. Tupac definitely would've jumped on that front porch.
DeLaw:Hell yeah, he would've. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And if Big was, you know Big was still alive, or you know he was like hey, man, that shit popping, like I'm about to drop an album, let me go out here, yo, it would have been juicy part two, because he would have, like, did it in front of the same brownstone Boom.
Wes:But okay, let me go back to my yeah, yeah, yeah.
DeLaw:Your far left point.
Wes:Yeah, my far left point. So Tupac, for example like you had the conscious Tupac, you had the gangster rap Tupac, you had the actors. Those are different aspects of that man. Those were different aspects of that man. Some people was like, well, you don't know if he was really this. He was really that, he was all of those things. No matter what you, you know, defining him to like, oh, he had to be one of those things, so the other stuff must not have been real.
Wes:Because you hear that argument sometimes and this, this, and that I feel like that's the same thing that, uh, all of us have to uh kind of tap into. Like yo, if you know you can be a hothead, that's fine. Learn when the when it's time for that, because sometimes, when it's time for that, you know that that's the motherfucker you want in your corner like, all right, it is time for this nigga because he's one like let's just say, we all out and about my, my homie, he acting cool until it's time not to act cool, but this is the nigga I want in my corner when it's time for things to be not cool. I, I am now starting to think like yo, learn how to harness who, that what that is learn how to respect people when you're interacting with them. Not to say that you can't change those habits, but learn and acknowledge that you got that shit in. You use it for good and not evil, like great responsibility, great power, that bullshit like not bullshit, but you get what I mean, like that type of shit.
Wes:Haven't fleshed that whole thought out, but I was just thinking like, well, shit, motherfucker, you've been saying this for years. You don't have to. Obviously you I ain have to, obviously you I ain't gonna say obviously you can't do it, but obviously you're missing what you're supposed to be doing, which is probably just treating people with respect. That's the best what I'm trying to get at. So that's what I was saying. As far as, like her, saying that when you was like you was being a complete asshole, like I'm going to work on me and this, this, and that Sometimes I'm just like when it comes to certain things like that, shit first starts with acknowledgement and you just kind of lean into the positiveness of that and then you'll eat what I'm thinking You'll be able to stop that negativity because you see that you can still be yourself and it could come out in a positive outcome have a positive outcome Because that's how I see it.
DeLaw:It's like if, in the long run and not that I I appreciate that dude beating on it because no, no no, you know what I'm saying, but to to not acknowledge what also you've done wrong to me.
DeLaw:You know, and there's nothing in my mind that my wife could do to me for me to hit her, but I could also tell you she does a lot of stuff to me that makes me very irritated, in that she knows she's wrongful, but until I say something she doesn't know, and then you say, well, what do I care about his feelings, like you know what I'm saying, he's a man, he's a man, you know it's like no, no, that's not what we do Basically.
Wes:you shouldn't have that mentality, Right? No, you shouldn't have that. Because you wouldn't want us to have that mentality about you or just women in general.
DeLaw:Right, because if that you cook clean, fuck and shut the fuck up, you're going to be all in your feelings. And then, when you don't do it and he put his fist in your face, you're going to be like why'd you hit me, Bitch? I told you what to do and so you don't want that. And we don't want to feel like our feelings aren't secure or valid, because that's what we all run across, is that when something bothers us and we say something to you about it, next thing we know is you're turning it on us and we're apologizing for making you feel bad because we feel bad. When is that? Come on, it don't make no sense, yeah.
Wes:Valentine's Day is coming up. Yeah, question to you have you been paying it forward Like your taxes, if you get what I mean? Have you been paying it forward?
DeLaw:I barely get shit back on my motherfucking taxes, but what I do get normally goes to my wife.
Wes:That's not what I'm saying. Have you been paying it forward in the regards of like yo, I've been doing what I'm supposed to be doing in this marriage that Valentine's Day should just be a layup.
DeLaw:I always pay for it sort of okay, smart guy it should? This should be a layup. She was just asking me what I wanted to. I said look, babe, at the end of the day, as long as I get to spend time with you it don't matter what we do, why you lie to that woman like this enough you know what you want.
DeLaw:Yeah, I know I want that cheek in the mouth, but still I got you. Remember we had this conversation almost two, three years ago that men can't say what men want to say, because if we say it that way, because we didn't say it a different way, they don't want to do it Every time that fucking question comes up, like what you want.
Wes:I'm like in my head, I'm like I feel like I'm the fucking bougie bitch because I'll be like yo, what I want, I'm not going to ask you to buy because it costs too much fucking money it costs. Listen, listen. What I truly want right now is going to be like one of the things I want is going to be like $2,000. What I actually want is going to be what I actually want is going to be like $15,000. So it's kind of like yo. That's when I've resulted in your shit, like I'll be happy with this, this and this. Go pick me up a video game. You know, give me some, it's going to be a good day.
DeLaw:All it's going to be a good day. All I ask for, whatever I ask for, is free.
Wes:What I'm going to do is just not make sure her jaw get locked up. Nah, here's the thing. I'm not saying that it has to be monitored, but this is one of the one few and rare situations where it's like yo, I can request something of you without feeling like a you know, whatever, whatever. So, yeah, I could request something of you without feeling like a you know, whatever, whatever. So, yeah, I'm going to request something and usually I'm not. And usually I'm requesting, like yo, a video game and shit, Like shit.
Wes:Earlier on in me and my wife's relationship before we got married and shit, she asked me what I wanted, for it was something. You know what I told her. I said yo, give me the new travis sky giant birds in a trap. And and it was, yeah, birds in the trap, st mcknight or birds in the trap. I forgot.
Wes:I remember the original title was gonna be birds in the trap, st brian, mcknight or some shit like that, but it was birds in the trap and something another, I forget another giant, maybe a Dom Kennedy joint, and I was going to be there and I'm like yo, I don't really be wanting nothing for real. For real, it's the fact for me, as a man like yo, we don't get gifts like that. So why not let it be something that I'm like, okay, I'm going to use this shit. Like, oh, give me a wallet. Like what if I did the woman? Shit, Give me a wallet, Give me some, give me the new J's. I'm going to kill them J's. You know what I mean? Like I'm not going to have them forever.
DeLaw:You gave me a good idea. I'm going to ask her for a blanket with my name on it. That actually fits me. A what?
Wes:So for yeah, I remember the story, the blanket don't fit. Do not bring that up with her Don't say do not say, do not say, give me a blanket that fits, because it's going to make her feel like, like what?
DeLaw:No, I have a point now in my marriage, and I think she's gotten to that point too, where if it ain't right, it ain't right.
Wes:I hear you, Because she'll be like look.
DeLaw:And I told her. I said, if I had brought you to a too small blanket like that, you'd have looked at me like damn, and you fucked that up.
Wes:Right, like you don't really love me because you ain't take the due diligence to pay attention to feed us us.
DeLaw:I wouldn't even have sent it back. I'd have just brought another one that was bigger, yeah, and it came in just to appease it. But she brought that for me two years ago. I ain't got no new blanket. That means do you love me? Do you love me for real?
Wes:That's not gonna work. Yeah, yo yo For the sake of the pod. So we gonna have a story you do that, you do that, you do that, and we'll follow up.
DeLaw:Hopefully she don't say she want to uncouple.
Wes:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we'll follow up. But shit, I'm trying to see when new games come out. So whatever's out right about now, I ask her to get it for me or some shit.
DeLaw:I get it from my wife all the time. What do you want for Thanksgiving?
Wes:What I want for Thanksgiving is my ring.
DeLaw:I feel like I don't. I would never ask nobody for something that I know I can't afford. You know what I'm saying. If all I know is I can't afford, Right, you know what I'm saying. So if all I know is I can give you dick and and and engage some cunnilingus, hey, that's what I can give you. So if that's good enough for me, it's good enough for you.
Wes:True, indeed, true indeed.
DeLaw:So now we're at a point where, well, what do we want to do? True, indeed. So now we're at a point where, well, what do we want to do? So, do we want to go and get dinner? So now it becomes a well, what do we want to do? Do we want to go?
Wes:and get dinner. Mind you, it ends up being Y'all actually be doing dinner on Valentine's Day.
DeLaw:We do yeah.
Wes:I hate that shit man.
DeLaw:So and it's my fault that I fucked it up I fucked it up this time, so I took it somewhere four pounds I think, but I also cooked four. Now, what I didn't compensate for was I made jambalaya, and jambalaya was good, but I forgot that you gotta separate the shit.
Wes:So now, when I talked about this, the rice rice got to be separate.
DeLaw:When I say separate, you still want the rice to have the flavor of the stuff. You still stew it in the tomatoes and stuff like that. But everything else you can put in a different sauce and put it over it. I did it all together. I was like I ain't got time to wait for shit. You know what I'm saying. And then you know also, could I have made the rice on the side and then did the whatever? Yeah, I could have, but that's not jambalaya. You know what I'm saying. You know it's pretty much some shit over rice.
Wes:Which I'm going to the key to. I know we're getting all on a tangent here. The key is to have that stew, juice, broth shit, a little bit of that, separate, so when the original shit dry out, you can kind of just pour a little bit in there, whisk it up a little bit, warm it up, boom.
DeLaw:Yeah, probably.
Wes:I don't know, I'm just saying things.
DeLaw:Here's what I'm planning for for this Valentine's I'm going to make gumbo okay okay, so that means I do got to buy some crab meat, got to buy some mussels and oysters I'm going to make it a seafood check. I got to buy some chicken thighs, you know whatever. Um, after that pretty much everything's easy. Um, the hardest part is picking out the uh, picking out the stuff out the crab meat, the shells and shit. That's the hardest part of the whole thing. But making the rule, getting your onions and peppers, making sure you do all that, boom, put the little. And make sure, if you decide to do this, make sure you get a good seafood broth that you can pour in there to get the whole thing going, boom, boom, once it gets thick, throw your stuff in there. Put your rice on the side.
DeLaw:Now I will do jambalaya again. I am going to do jambalaya again. I'm not going to say I won't, and you know I might have enough money that I might could just do both. Make a pot of rice, here's gumbo, here's jambalaya, which one you want, babe, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, so we'll see how it all plays itself out. But that's the plan. Plan. I got a month to go to figure all this out no, you don't.
DeLaw:I got three and a half weeks, so I got time. I got two paychecks between now and then to like buy this shit to whatever. But what I've really been bothered about is that how all these fucking companies got these lump crab meat, crab cakes, and all I can find is the shit that I get. I want my crab meat to look like that, with the lump crab meat and that motherfucker tasting good. All the lump parts all the good lump parts are all on the top and after you dig through it it's just a little stringy meat and shit. Where the fuck they get that shit from?
Wes:I don't know, I don't cry to me like that.
DeLaw:I might just have to order some from Jimmy Seafood.
Wes:So listen to this story, alright. My wife wants to travel without luggage for Valentine's. I don't. So off the rip before I even tell you the story. Why do you think the reason is the wife wants to travel without luggage?
DeLaw:Because she wants to spend my goddamn money.
Wes:Ding, ding ding. So that's what I thought, but apparently that's not what she says.
Wes:Let's read she don't want to take a shower and have her koozies staying here. I don't know. Here's how this shit go. We are a married couple. I'm 30. She's 30. 30 for 30. They're both 30.
Wes:We're planning a trip on Valentine's Day to Europe from London, where we stay. My wife chose Vienna and a flight with Rain Air or Ryan Air, ryan Air, ryan Air, ryan Ryan Air, priced at 60 pounds each. That must be the spirit above that area she suggested we take. She suggested we should take that flight for a four-day trip. The flight doesn't include any luggage. With cabin luggage the flight is worth 120 each and she said we can manage without the luggage.
Wes:She says she wants to experience traveling for a cheap amount and doesn't want to spend too much. For context, we are high earners and we live way below our means, so this is not due to budget constraint. I suggested that we should at least be able to take some cabin baggage, as I don't like traveling without clothes, especially on a four day trip. We got into an argument and now she won't talk to me. I told her I wouldn't want to go for a trip if this is how we're going to be traveling. So to me that does sound like an okie doke be traveling, so to me that does sound like an okey-doke, like we ain't gonna go with some stuff, and then I'm gonna miraculously be like I need the Gucci stores here. Can we stop in here?
DeLaw:It is.
Wes:Valentine's.
DeLaw:Day.
Wes:Think about where they're going.
DeLaw:They're going to Italy.
Wes:No, vienna's in Italy, isn't it Vienna's Austria, or something like that, right? I thought Vienna was Italy. No, vienna's in Italy, Vienna's Austria, right, or some shit like that right.
DeLaw:I thought Vienna was Italy.
Wes:Is it? I don't know. We both definitely said two different fucking countries yeah, you know what austria?
DeLaw:yeah, yeah, I knew it was something like that was italy, but yeah, it's venice is probably what you're talking about. Yeah, see, yeah see, look, that's how you know I don't read enough. Look, in my head I was spelling it out and I spelled venice. I ain't spoke Vienna, vienna, sausage.
Wes:Yo. I'm automatically thinking, like yo, like, yeah, this is an okey-doke, what you planning to kill him? Wow, it's a whole violent side of the day. I mean, like it would be easier. Like yo, I ain't got paid as much money. This is the net. Blah, blah, blah. That easier. Like yo, I ain't got paid as much money. This, this and that, blah, blah, blah. That's the morbidness in me thinking. But you know, that just sounds like. You know how I say in the songs like yo don't pack no bags, we just going to go because we going to pick up clothes wherever we at. Like that's what that sounds like to me. I don't know Doing what that sounds like to me.
DeLaw:I don't know Doing that on Valentine's Day it just sounds like that guy will be setting himself up. Well, here's what I'll say. It's not a bad thing on her part. So for every dollar in the US, every US dollar, that's like 13 Australian, whatever they have.
Wes:Australian.
DeLaw:Austrian, sorry, not Australian Austrian, whatever their currency is right so for one it's like for every 7 cents. One, it's like for every seven cents we have it's a dollar. For the other, give or take. If she is trying to finesse it, she's doing a horrible job. You know what I'm saying? She's doing a horrible job and I get the idea of, well, let's go out. And I get the idea of, well, it's going to cost too much for this and this, but at least take some underclothes. I mean, take some underclothes.
Wes:You know what?
DeLaw:I'm saying Take a second pair of jeans and another shirt. It's a four-day trip. Don't spill no shit on your shit, Make sure you just take enough under clothes. But but no, it does sound like the okey-doke, where it's like oh well you know, I need some shoes, my feet hurt.
Wes:But in her defense, shit might be cheap over there. Here's the thing. Here's the thing. They don't. It's not even the like he said, and I'm pretty sure I don't know if you have come across this yet, this whole string of sentences I'm about to say. He said they're high earners, so it's not the budget thing, so it ain't even the fact that shit being cheap.
Wes:It could be one of those things where he just wants her to stop spending money or they don't have space in where they're staying. So it could be one of those things where it's like yo take some of the stuff that you got with you, because every time we go to places you keep buying shit and then sending the shit back home is crazy. And her head she's like well, I can get ahead of that if I can just buy shit. You know what I mean. It could literally be one of those situations because there's no way on a four fucking day trip, I'm just gonna be buying drawers wherever I'm at. I don't want to do that. You know how crazy that sounds. I ain't taking no luggage. Look, I ain't gonna lie Just because it's $60?.
DeLaw:I'm putting it to you this way For you to go to Vienna for one month will cost you just as much as to go to anywhere else for a week. That's popular. Think about that.
Wes:So you leaving your clothes at home too? Is that what you're telling me?
DeLaw:I don't know, I ain't saying that, but but someone my co-worker is looking for a trip to not Angola but to Aruba. It's going to cost $2,100 just to go for like a couple days, like four or five days, ten days obviously. It's going to be about $4,000, some change and maybe a week will be about $6,000, or not a week, but like two weeks will be like $6,000. You're talking about a month would cost just as much as going for two weeks to a group of. She might be on to something because you might get some shit for the low over there, something just to you know, get a little book bag.
Wes:I feel like he's getting set up for the Valentine's Ogie Dope.
DeLaw:Yeah, no, he definitely is.
Wes:It doesn't matter if it's for the low because they are high earners, it doesn't matter.
DeLaw:I mean Austria is not really known for none, except for what their music, their culture, I mean their culture, they're not known for too much.
Wes:I'm almost certain if I go and type in Austria high-end shopping, there's some district where it's Gucci and Louis Vuitton on the strip.
DeLaw:Vienna, austria, high-end, just clothing.
Wes:Here we go all right, I can't go for damn right now let's look at these prices here. Nah, you just got to go to the IM boutiques.
DeLaw:I'm looking at it now. They don't have no prices up here. You know, other countries don't put no prices up.
Wes:No, we just need to know if there's an area where you can go and get your Dolce here. It is right here. I found it that fast.
DeLaw:I got it.
Wes:There's a Gucci there. There's a Fendi right there. Come on now. Once was home to a large number of imperial and royal court purveyors, today the stores of big luxury. Luxury brand line in the street. The elegant Swiss watch and jewelry company Chopard has set up shop right at the start of the pedestrian zone.
DeLaw:You got Doge Cabana, tiffany Company, ferragamo, michael Kors, burberry, borgari, gucci, fendi, dory or whatever it is D-O-R Dory or whatever it is D-O-R-I-R or whatever it is Dior, he's getting set up. She's trying to finesse.
Wes:He's getting set up. He's getting set up, Alexander McQueen.
DeLaw:He's getting set up Because she was like oh, oh, let's go with no luggage.
Wes:I'm gonna need luggage to bring this stuff back. Well, I can just go into the Gucci store get some bags, and you know some carry-ons.
DeLaw:But here's the other part of it. I'm not saying that she's right or wrong. Even though it might say 5,000 Turkish or Austrian, whatever they have, that's about $350. It's about what they would have paid back home anyway after the currency exchange, or it might be less, it might be well, it's only $1,000. If it's only $1,000, you're looking at $50?
Wes:Listen. So it's not even the fact that the money I'm. Of course I'm throwing my own narrative out there because it's the podcast. Why wouldn't I throw my own narrative?
Wes:I'm looking at it from a standpoint of I'm looking at it from a standpoint of since they both high earners, how we were talking about yesterday she spends all. I mean not yesterday, last last episode. She spends all her money. He has to bail her out. She's looking for a way to actually get some extra shit in. I'm throwing my own narrative in. I'm spinning this, my story. She's throwing in, she's trying to figure out a way so she can get some more stuff to make it seem like she actually needs it by putting herself in a situation where she will need the stuff. Right, that's what I think is going on.
Wes:I couldn't allow it. I'd be like yo, we ain't going nowhere, don't worry about it. I'll be like this I'll be like you know what I'll do. This is how petty I'll be. I'll be like you know what. You don't have to bring any stuff. I'll bring some stuff and you know what I would do. I would bring sensible stuff, but I'll pack some of her shit too, and she's not going to know. So, in the event that she pulls this bullshit, uh, oh, I don't have no shoes. I got you shorty. Here you go. These shoes are comfortable. You always said these are comfortable. I took them out the closet. Oh, I ain't got no. Here you go, shorty. It's your shirts and this, this. And that she won the awards right then and there. Because you want to know why she's been using me for my money. She can't take care of her damn self because all she wants to do is spend. It's like you said they're not satisfied until they have five dollars in their account oh, I forgot to tell you.
DeLaw:Let me show it. Please don't show me that you got five dollars in your account. Oh, I forgot to tell you. Let me show it.
Wes:Let me show it please don't show me that you got $5 in your account no, no, no.
DeLaw:I got $5 in my account, so you remember that liquor I told you I could never find yeah it eluded me.
Wes:I found it. What is that? What type?
DeLaw:of this is Blattons, the original single barrel bourbon whiskey. So each one of these is you know. Obviously the horse is on it, and each underneath the bottom foot of this horse right here has a letter. It spells out Blanton's. So I have T. So Blanton's has a great marketing strategy.
Wes:You put all of them together, Captain Planet comes.
DeLaw:I'm not sure I'm hoping, but everybody is looking for these letters. So I got hoping, but everybody is looking for these letters. So I got T. Blanton is spelled B-L-A-N-T-O-N apostrophe S.
Wes:So people search, because this is one of the hardest bottles to find, unless you go on their website and even with that, they say, oh great, we don't know which one we want to ship you Right, don't be asking for a T.
DeLaw:Right. So this is one of the hardest bottles to find and up the street from my house they have it for $99. They originally had it for $150. God damn, and I said, man fuck, that they dropped it to $99 because I think they got too many bottles of it and ain't nobody buying it. So I'm like shit nigga. If I can get me another $99, I'm gonna buy me a second one and that's gonna be the one I drink, but this one is untouchable. It's like a trade.
Wes:I didn't know people traded alcohol from different regions until when I was working at I ain't gonna say this guy's name, I can't say the company my previous place of employment. He was telling me how he was into that type of shit and he was closer to the the Richmond side of Virginia. So sometimes he'll go to trade with people in North Carolina or you know, just with different people in Virginia, like he was on his blog not blog, but like a, like a Facebook group and it was like yo, you got the blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I'll trade you a case If you buy me a case of this, this and this. And I'm like, damn, that is a good way to get shit from the local liquor stores at a reasonable price, because sometimes if you try to buy it online, they don't even ship it to you. They be like nah, go to your local liquor store to get it and it's like well, shit, there's not that flavor or that. Whatever ain't sold here, I can't get it.
DeLaw:Now what I will say about this bottle.
Wes:I think that's illegal, ain't it? You can't transfer. I'm thinking about it. You can't transfer. Oh shit, I didn't say his name so this bottle was bottled on September 30th 2024.
DeLaw:This bottle is registered number 58. And this came from barrel number 1,640. They give you all the details about this right here, so I'm going to get another one.
Wes:Are you going to drink that?
DeLaw:one. I ain't going to drink this one.
Wes:No, I told you you can drink the other one, I'm going to get it.
DeLaw:I'm going to see if it's the same information on it. If it's the same information on it, I'm going to be like, y get it. I'm going to see if it's the same information on it. If it's the same information, I'm going to be like, yeah, bullshit, I'm going to drink both of them. But if it's different information, like, oh, this barrel was made on this day. I'm like yo, that's like the scotch I got when I went to Madison and I got that scotch A different barrel strength every time. Yeah, yeah, I finally got it. Man, I've been looking for this bottle for six years.
Wes:Six years.
DeLaw:Six years, six it might have been longer than that. I'm trying to think, when Matty J sent me that picture, that he had this and I was like.
Wes:What is that?
DeLaw:Is it good? He's like, yeah, nah, that's some good shit. I was like all right bet had this. And I was like what is that? Is it good? He's like, yeah, nah, that's some good shit. I was like alright bet. But I'm going to say I've been looking for since, for sure, covid. So five years, for sure it might have been. I want to say six to seven years. I've been looking for that bottle to find it. I've only been been looking for that bottle to find it. I only been aggressively looking for it for maybe four years. So the prior years I wasn't aggressively looking for it until I had it at Fat Boys and then I was like I need this bottle. So, yeah, I got it. Congrats, man. Yeah, man, look, I felt like, look, a weight of the world was lifted off. No, shut the fuck up. But you know what? In Austria they might have had this bottle for cheap as shit nah hold up Austria.
Wes:What are they? They're beer.
DeLaw:Austria is beer and music. I mean, think about it over in those other countries. A lot of it is really, especially in those countries, it's beer because they have the stuff, the ferment you got champagne and certain parts too it's not spirit spirits, not like Russia does vodka.
Wes:Yeah, I just picked up some Tito's yesterday, I got the grapefruit flavor. When you asked was I drinking, I was like I want to. I just bought something. However, I haven't had a meal yet today. Look, look, look, I just bought something, however.
DeLaw:I haven't had a meal yet today, but but but to me. My wife came in the house and was like are you going to wash your dishes? I was like, are you going to wash yours? She said, well, I only got three. I said I only got five. What's the problem? Jeez y'all. That's neither here nor there. But yes, you know, other countries are known for things like Panama is known for their rum, central America rum. A lot of those Caribbean places are known for their rum because when you ferment fruits it's rum pretty much. That's why a lot of rum has such fruity flavors to it. It's like oh, it tastes sweet. Yeah, because it's fermented from fruit. I can't tell you what scotch is fermented and all that else is fermented from, but I know rum for sure. I used to buy a lot of rum. You know, back in my po days I used to get a lot of Bacardi can't go wrong with that.
Wes:You need the buzz. You need the buzz yeah, that hangover was killer before we go, what is your advice for this young man?
DeLaw:The biggest thing I can only ever explain to someone when it comes to stuff like that is you got to stand on your ground.
Wes:I mean he said he ain't coming. He said, if they won't be like that, he ain't going. You got to stay on your ground.
DeLaw:But then you also, you know you got to stay on your ground and you got to be willing to be like, okay, well, if she's going to go by herself, okay, fine, bye, I might do a lot of work.
Wes:Valentine's Day.
DeLaw:Yeah.
Wes:If she's going by herself, she ain't.
DeLaw:You kind of got to be at peace where it's like, oh okay, well, I'm going to Bye, see you, okay, I'm leaving. Okay, with no bags. See you, peace. And you know she might have a good time, she might not. She might meet somebody over there, she might not, you never know but you gotta be okay with what comes from it.
Wes:Y'all both higher earners, so that mean really it just means that she fuck around, she'll find out. Yeah, but you know I like I, we would. We would uh say like yo. Remember when you were saying like yo, so I gotta keep money on the side? Just because she fuck up her money, that shit gets tiresome. And you damn sure don't want to be like she's saying this egregious shit for Valentine's Day and you're like I know I'm going to have to buy something. I know she, I don't want to get set up like this. That's so in your face.
DeLaw:You're going to have to put money aside to eat. You're going to have to put money aside to do a lot of stuff and you want to put money aside and do a lot of stuff and when you and we'll get tired? For a lot of guys, you know, as we go through our relationships and marriages, is is literally the you buy we. You know we. Okay, we got to do this, we got to do this and we have to think about how much money you're going to have as you get into the second week of not being paid. You know what I'm saying. So you get paid this week. Then you got your non-paid week.
DeLaw:We got to worry about what you're doing, because now you done spent all your money doing this, this, this, this and this and we done saved it. Now we got to spend our money on you too. And it's like you know I get it. You know you see money, you want to spend money. You spend money before you get it. But that can't be your MO and be like oh, you knew that was me when you married me. No, you got to constantly work on yourself for stuff like that. Right, I want to buy hood rat shit with my shit too. But if you doing that, we both can't.
Wes:No, we both can't. We just have to limit. We can't go full, we both can't, we just have to limit. We can't go full hood. Don't go full hood, right.
DeLaw:Nah, nah, look, think about it. Me and my wife, we're going into a very healthy diet. You know how much healthy costs? A lot, a lot. You know what I'm saying. So it's like if I was like you know what? Fuck it, I'm just to just spend my money on whatever I want and then I'll figure all that other shit out later when it's time to get some food, because we got no food left in the house because we ate all the healthy shit who won't get it if we both done spent all our money.
DeLaw:You know what I'm saying. It's just you can't. It's messed up for guys not being able to spend their money how they want to spend it, because they got to worry about how their wife or significant other or however they address them spends their money, because they're not thinking about you. When they're spending money, they're thinking about them, but when you spend your money, they want you to think about them and what has to go on in the house, and why do you spend your money? They want you to think about them and what you have, what has to go on in the house, and why do you spend your money that way, when we should be questioning the same way, like I don't know you watch the upshows.
Wes:No, my wife watches it. I don't really like you know. Answer that one.
DeLaw:So there's an episode in the upshows and the new season that just came out. Benny got his investment back from his son. He only gave him $500. As soon as that money came in, guess what his wife said? Oh, he gave you the money back. Good, we can go do this. We got to get this.
DeLaw:He's like this is my money that I already invested, that I got back. That's the dilemma men have a lot of times is, as soon as they get it, they're trying to spend it. Let's say my cousin's shop. I put, let's say I was like you know what. Let's say I had a lot more money than what I had. Hey, I'm going to put in $30,000 into your business. He says, hey, here's your money back with interest. It's $50,000. Who that? I told my wife. Yeah, my cousin gave me my money back for the investment. It went interest-free. Oh, as soon as you say the number, oh, then we can do this to the house. We can do this.
DeLaw:Already have plans for it Already spending your money. It's like whoa, you didn't put that $50K, that $30K in, you didn't make that money to do that. So, no, this money is going back to me, and if I choose to do that with the money, then that's what.
DeLaw:I'll do with it, but it's not going to be. No, you spend my money because now, oh, you got it and I spent all mine, so now we can do this because I couldn't save enough money. No, we're not doing that. Why am I the only one saving money to do shit, when really we should be saving money together to do shit, like we want to get a deck or a new kitchen or whatever. We need to be saying, okay, this is how much money we're going to put with the side to do this. It shouldn't be that I got to do it or I invested in something. They gave my money back. Oh good, now we can do that thing we've been talking about. Hold on, that's not what this is for. This is going back to my bank account because I was 30 grand short from putting the investment in. You know so. You know.
DeLaw:It just always matters my mind of how, how people will always. They want to spend your money. When you get it, you get that. You get that advancement, you get that that little, that little bump. But as soon as you ask them for shit, they like oh wait, oh, I'm broke. Oh, that's for me, like I got that. Like that's for broke. Oh, that's for me. Like I got that, like that's for me. I invested that, that's for me. Like I'm going to spend on what I want to spend, like why you want to spend mine, but you ain't going to let me spend yours, like no, that's not how it works. All right, so long story short.
Wes:But if you follow my advice which is what is my advice Don't go. Don't even set yourself up, without a headache, even if it is legit where she's probably not going to buy anything. That was just me being hyperbolic, just for the sake of it. But she's not going to buy anything. She actually wants to witness this. We all know, as men and relationships, your wife can be annoying and you really want to put yourself in a situation where you know she's probably going to be that way and it's going to be Valentine's Day and they give a fuck about that, so it's going to be heightened. Don't do it to yourself, king, definitely don't do it to yourself On that note, or you will be doing it to yourself, king. Definitely don't do it to yourself on that note, or you will be doing it to yourself on that note. We thank everybody for tuning in. We thank everybody for tuning in. We'll see you next time.